IS IT ABUSE?
Non-physical abuse can feel blurry and confusing. It's not always easy to recognise or articulate what's happening to you. If the answer is 'yes' to any of the following questions, then it's likely you are suffering - most probably in silence - and should seek support as soon as possible. Click below to arrange a free appointment. We can talk through what's happening and find a way for you to move forward with your life.
Are you feeling bombarded?
Is your ex partner constantly messaging and calling you about one thing or another? Do you feel as though you have to explain your actions? Do you feel pressure to respond immediately? Do you feel nauseous receiving message alerts from your ex partner?
Are you struggling financially?
Is your ex partner refusing to pay or delaying their child maintenance payments? Have they left you with debt? Are you feeling pressured into agreeing an unfair split of assets?
Does your ex keep filing court applications?
Are you enduring continuous stress from responding to court applications? Are you being threatened with legal action all of the time? Do you feel as though you've spent most of your separation in court? Is it impacting your ability to move on with your life?
Are you starting to feel alienated from your children?
Does it feel as though your children are withdrawing from you? Are you experiencing more conflict with them than usual? Are they beginning to challenge boundaries more frequently? Are they starting to request more time with the other parent? Do you have a 'feeling' or 'instinct' they are being coached into certain behaviour.
Is your ex partner Gaslighting you?
Are you beginning to question your perception of reality? Are you second-guessing your decisions? Are you doubting your memory? Feeling constant confusion?
Are you feeling physically and mentally exhausted?
Are you feeling completely drained of all energy? Are you having trouble concentrating on day to day tasks? Are you finding it difficult to sleep? Does every day feel like an uphill struggle?
POST SEPARATION ABUSE WHEEL
The Post Separation Power and Control Wheel was developed by the Domestic Abuse Intervention Project. It examines the issues facing victims and their children after they leave an abuser. In particular, it illustrates how an abuser uses the children to maintain their power and control over a former partner. Does any of this behaviour resonate with you?
